Balancing Act

I need to get one! For years it was no problem to keep the house cleaned, have dinner ready by 5, the kids bathed, books read and in bed by 8...ish. Since I have started working out of the home, my house is a pit, dinner is ready by 7, the kids are reading their own books and I am up until 11, packing lunches and setting clothes out for the next day. The laundry is just competely out of control and I am pretty much in a freak out state of mind. No matter how much planning ahead I do, I just can't seem to get caught up. Right now I feel like I am letting my family down as well as myself. I know it is going to take some time to adjust and get a routine. Soon as I walk into the the house I am rushing to get everything finished. Funny because it seems like as I walk in the door hubby hits the couch. So as I am flying through the house making dinner, picking up toys, going through backpacks, signing permission slips and behavior reports, trying to make the two year old happy for a moment and starting dinner, hubby is relaxing away. I love him dearly but hello! SOS!!! I need some help. I deserve a little relaxing time before midnight right? I know I live in the south but hello this aint the 50's!!